Comments on: Fatherhood Freestyle: Mamas, Are You Getting in the Way?

By: Patty

Patty — Mon, 19 Oct 2009 18:23:54 +0000

Its a powerful lesson. Its interesting how similarly we parent like the parenting we received. I wonder how that parenting style has impacted your mother and so on and so on.

I also think this is not a single gender issue. Parents both mothers and fathers can stand in the way of good parenting. Lets not forget that those “jilted” fathers still have options to be involved with their children even if they are not supported by the mother and the reverse is true as well. We should all feel empowered as parents to secure a place in our children’s lives.

By: Heather Steele

Heather Steele — Sat, 03 Oct 2009 21:48:47 +0000

Okay, my last sentence made no sense. What I meant to write is that we stand for each other and take responsibility for whatever we need to do to clean up our messes and get out of blame so that we can be the people we want to be in our kid’s lives.

So that we love our kids, are with our kids, take care of our kids regardless of circumstance.

Perception is a choice and often the only lens we use is victim. Empowering yourself and your mate is the answer. Love and Grow More.

By: Heather Steele

Heather Steele — Sat, 03 Oct 2009 21:34:37 +0000

I loved Whitney’s share. Thank you.

Something came to mind as I was reading….the women I work with that choose to keep the Father out or anything out for that matter are usually in fear, sometimes terror. When women feel that they need to cling, control and protect themselves their feminine energy gets out of whack. They become the opposite of who they naturally are. Seems like the drama that Talibah teaches about and the space of Love that Whitney is requesting are in opposition of each other when someone has not healed their wounds are are reacting in fear instead of love. Whatever we can all do to clean up our messes, work through our blame and lack of compassion so that we can have Daddys and Mommys together or not loving their children and in their lives regardless of adults who are wounded.

Love to you all.

By: alethea j brown

alethea j brown — Thu, 01 Oct 2009 03:47:12 +0000

Grateful.
So eloquently written.
And if I had to write to mothers to explain my new perception as a single mom, I would start by saying it just as you have in this well written article.

Alethea J Brown

By: Shawn

Shawn — Thu, 01 Oct 2009 00:42:07 +0000

Mothers to a point are very much getting in the way. I have a 13 year old son whom I love very very much but because I am gay and was married in the Mormon Temple. my ex wife hates me. Oh she knew that I was gay BEFORE we got married and had our son but she though she could change me…….lol

My custody battle has been a total nightmare. after a 40 months in prison and suffering 2 heart attacks she has finally won and has moved with our son to AZ and I am here in Las Vegas, It tears me apart to get the email from my son that I do but I know that its all from her. There is nothing that I can do about the Las Vegas Family Courts are Corrupt with a “C”. I have started a non-profit to help people that are involved in the Family Courts but no one in Las Vegas cares enough to help. at least no one with money. I have 5 other states that want my help. PA and PAS is a horrible horrible crime that is being perpetrated against our children by the Family Court System and the Custodial Parents.

If you would like more information please contact me through my website at http://www.passagegroups.us.

Thank you,

Shawn

By: Lisa Maria Carroll

Lisa Maria Carroll — Thu, 01 Oct 2009 00:40:49 +0000

Whitney, first let me say that I’m glad that you survived having a gun pressed against your head, and was able to spend time with your daughter again.

I agree with you 100% that mothers should put their personal differences aside when it comes to their children spending time with their father. But I’ve seen both sides, trifling deadbeats who don’t show up, and women who punish themselves in an effort to punish the fathers by not allowing them to see their children.

I pray that you and your father can forge a respectful, even loving, relationship. It’s never too late.

By: Sidney Gaskins

Sidney Gaskins — Wed, 30 Sep 2009 23:05:54 +0000

Whitney,
In 2004, I had a hard conversation with my father and shared with him my responsibilityin our relationship. He in turn, shared with me how he was feeling and had felt at the time he left our family. My parents divorced when I was 6, but he left when I was two. He was absolutely missed. However, it was not my mother who kept him from us. It was his own demons, for lack of a better word.

Having a mother who was able to seperate her biases from our need to have a him around was priceless. Never did she speak bad about him, in front of me or my siblings. She shared with me, as ateenager, that it is up to me to figure out who he is to me. Now that I am into my 30′s, I understand that.

My father died in 2007, but not without me sharing the love I have for him. The pride I have in him being vulnerable enough to admit his faults, goes beyond words. And it is all because my mother did not foster disdain, ill regard, or hate for him. But kept her feelings to herself. In my opinion that is what it takes, removing your needs to see the best interest of your child.