Comments on: 10 Things NOT to Say to Your Children During a Divorce http://www.weparent.com/2009/10/10-things-not-to-say-to-your-children-during-a-divorce/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=10-things-not-to-say-to-your-children-during-a-divorce Living apart. Parenting together. Wed, 11 May 2011 01:26:57 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Lisa Maria Carroll http://www.weparent.com/2009/10/10-things-not-to-say-to-your-children-during-a-divorce/comment-page-1/#comment-10456 Lisa Maria Carroll Tue, 03 Aug 2010 19:55:57 +0000 http://www.weparent.com/?p=1736#comment-10456 Regarding #2, do children ever really need to know the "real" reason for a divorce? Because do adults always have an answer? My son was 6-months-old when his father and I separated, so it was several years before he asked questions about what happened. I never really had an answer for him, because 1) my ex-husband and I never should have married in the first place. I got pregnant and we got married. And then we got divorced. And 2) I don't remember many...okay, any, of the details about why we got divorced. It's a kind of like when I meet a guy, and he asks me why did I get divorced. I used to give them the old I never should have gotten married in the first place spiel. But that would lead to questions of why would I marry someone that I didn't love... So, now I just say we grew apart. After all, we separated 20 years ago. What difference does it make now? Regarding #2, do children ever really need to know the “real” reason for a divorce? Because do adults always have an answer?

My son was 6-months-old when his father and I separated, so it was several years before he asked questions about what happened. I never really had an answer for him, because 1) my ex-husband and I never should have married in the first place. I got pregnant and we got married. And then we got divorced. And 2) I don’t remember many…okay, any, of the details about why we got divorced. It’s a kind of like when I meet a guy, and he asks me why did I get divorced. I used to give them the old I never should have gotten married in the first place spiel. But that would lead to questions of why would I marry someone that I didn’t love… So, now I just say we grew apart. After all, we separated 20 years ago. What difference does it make now?

]]> By: Michele Renee http://www.weparent.com/2009/10/10-things-not-to-say-to-your-children-during-a-divorce/comment-page-1/#comment-10446 Michele Renee Sat, 31 Jul 2010 09:30:12 +0000 http://www.weparent.com/?p=1736#comment-10446 Excellent list. But some things don't apply to all situations. If children are not receiving child support or visitation from their absentee parent, is it really right to make them think this behavior is acceptable? Excellent list. But some things don’t apply to all situations. If children are not receiving child support or visitation from their absentee parent, is it really right to make them think this behavior is acceptable?

]]> By: 10 Things To Say To Your Children During Your Divorce : WeParent http://www.weparent.com/2009/10/10-things-not-to-say-to-your-children-during-a-divorce/comment-page-1/#comment-937 10 Things To Say To Your Children During Your Divorce : WeParent Wed, 11 Nov 2009 05:08:26 +0000 http://www.weparent.com/?p=1736#comment-937 [...] his last article, Wolfgang Gruener of SingleParentGossip shared 10 things not to say to your kids during your divorce.  This time, he’s back with 10 things you actually should [...] [...] his last article, Wolfgang Gruener of SingleParentGossip shared 10 things not to say to your kids during your divorce.  This time, he’s back with 10 things you actually should [...]

]]> By: Wolfgang http://www.weparent.com/2009/10/10-things-not-to-say-to-your-children-during-a-divorce/comment-page-1/#comment-889 Wolfgang Thu, 29 Oct 2009 07:15:44 +0000 http://www.weparent.com/?p=1736#comment-889 We all learn the hard way, and hopefully in time. Depending on your situation, some of those are tough to stay away from. But if the focus is on the children, only on the children, and not on what you still feel for your ex, it can be done. I live by it every day. We all learn the hard way, and hopefully in time. Depending on your situation, some of those are tough to stay away from. But if the focus is on the children, only on the children, and not on what you still feel for your ex, it can be done. I live by it every day.

]]> By: Talibah Mbonisi http://www.weparent.com/2009/10/10-things-not-to-say-to-your-children-during-a-divorce/comment-page-1/#comment-888 Talibah Mbonisi Thu, 29 Oct 2009 04:25:00 +0000 http://www.weparent.com/?p=1736#comment-888 Agree with you, Carolyn. And, I'd add, Wolfgang, that this is a great list for *after* divorce and if you never married. Agree with you, Carolyn. And, I’d add, Wolfgang, that this is a great list for *after* divorce and if you never married.

]]> By: Carolyn http://www.weparent.com/2009/10/10-things-not-to-say-to-your-children-during-a-divorce/comment-page-1/#comment-884 Carolyn Thu, 29 Oct 2009 01:30:09 +0000 http://www.weparent.com/?p=1736#comment-884 Great list. If only all divorced parents could follow it. Great list. If only all divorced parents could follow it.

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