Keyarna on Wed, 28th Oct 2009 1:18 pm 



Tryna to make sure I get my kids what they want. Im a single mom and my kids although they are young are very independent and help out alot. My daughter who is 8 is a big help with my 9 month old son. So I feel bad that I am not always able to buy them the things they want.

Talibah Mbonisi on Wed, 28th Oct 2009 9:23 pm 



Thanks for your comment, Keyarna. I understand the guilt you’re talking about. I’ve finally come to a point where I’m much less focused on getting my son what he wants. This year, I’m even going to substitute coupons for special activities, i.e. extra-quality time, for stuff. He just has too much of it anyway. And, the truth is, most of the time, he’s happier building things out of empty boxes with me as his assistant than he is playing with some electronic toy.

Tracey on Wed, 4th Nov 2009 12:07 pm 



I don’t have this challenge anymore, but for me it was having to split time with the kids between two families. I hated having to spend part of the holiday without my kids, that was truly hard.

Teeka on Tue, 10th Nov 2009 10:00 am 



I am in that position right now as far as splitting the time between homes. It is very hard for me. Its not that I dont want my 7 year old to spend time with his dad. I just asked that his sleepover time be on the weekends only for now. My son and I moved in with my parents last month. I just want my son to grow up in a stable environment the way I did growing up. My soon to be ex assumes this is me trying to control things. I hate that we are in this predicament and I am trying to deal with it this best I can..But I need help… ughhhhh!!!!
Thanks for listening to me vent.

Talibah Mbonisi on Thu, 12th Nov 2009 8:21 am 



Teeka: It can definitely be challenging trying to figure out how to balance all the best interests of your child, but trust that you and your son’s father can find an effective way to communicate and a solution that will deliver what’s best.

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